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This time of the year is when people will start making their New Years Resolution and goals for 2019. I wanted to share how I achieved one of my goals last year and hopefully it will help you to achieve yours as well.

Although this article is mainly about reading books on a more consistent basis, you can apply this framework to almost any goal you want to achieve such as exercising regularly or having a more balanced diet.

But Firstly, The Problem with Goals

However, I wanted to begin this reflection with interrogating the problem of setting goals. …

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There’s no getting around the fact that discipline equals freedom.

I had a colleague who once asked me: “How are you always so happy and satisfied with life?”

The question took me back a little bit.

I had never really considered myself to be overly happy or satisfied. I am an optimist by nature but I don’t tend to throw that in anyone’s face.

I replied back with a bit of a shocked smile: “What do you mean? Aren’t you happy and satisfied with life?”

“I am kind of. But you always seem so content and relaxed. What is your secret?” she asked

I couldn’t really think of anything mind-blowing…

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Invest a lot of your money where you invest a lot of your time.

My non-financial investment strategy is simple:

Invest a lot of your money where you invest a lot of your time.

Here is this strategy in practice.

1. A custom made bed and pillow

Your pillow and bed are the only possessions that you are guaranteed to use for at least 6–8 hours per day, every day for the rest of your life.

A Huffington Post roughly predicts that the average human will spend 26 years sleeping. 26 YEARS. Would you rather spend those almost 3 decades comfortably or with a sore lower back?

Yet, people are more likely to buy an expensive car that rapidly loses its…

We expect things to happen overnight, not overtime

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Think about all the big things you want to achieve in life.

A successful business, podcast or relationship. Maybe it is having a million dollars in the bank account, maybe it is a million subscribers on YouTube or a large following on Medium.

Whatever it is I will let you in on a little secret:

You can have anything you want….

But you have to do it consistently for at least 3 years.

Have I lost you yet?

Macro Goals, Micro Patience

You live in an age of instant gratification.

One-click shopping, on-demand streaming and a sexual partner with a swipe to the right…

How will you determine whether you have lived a good life?

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I don’t think many people contemplate the morality of their life. As the old saying goes, there are only two certainties in life:

  1. Death
  2. Taxes

You worry a lot about minimizing (legally of course) the second guarantee, but you rarely give much thought to optimizing the first one. You no longer ask yourself: if I was going to die today, would I be happy with the life I have led?

That’s quite an uncomfortable question to ask yourself but the answer would be revealing. You don’t meditate about death nearly as much as you need to. …

How to maximize the most important decade of your life

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Your 20s are the most important decade of your life. According to Meg Jay, you will make 80% of life decisions — marriage, having children and buying a house — by the time you are 35.

This makes what you do in your 20s extremely important.

I am by no means an expert or lifestyle guru. These are my own experiences on how to live better in your 20s. I didn’t include any advice on investing when young or anything else you could find in any standard article about your 20s.

I wanted to go into detail on some unconventional…

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80% of significant life choices happen before the age of 35

There is no getting around that your 20s are the most important years of your life. Period.


Well, according to psychologist and author of The Defining Decade Meg Jay:

  • You will make 80% of life’s most significant choices — marriage, buying a house, having kids, choosing a career — before the age of 35.
  • You will experience the most amount of identity and personality change in your 20s than in any other decade of your adult life.
  • The income you earn in the first 10 years of your career is a strong predictor of how much you will earn…

The unspoken law of getting things done while working from home

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330 days.

That’s the amount of time I’ve been working from home.

In the beginning, it was perfect. Less commute time, no need to meet face-to-face and therefore more time for myself. I could invest that time however I wanted — new skills, online courses, reading more books.

Then the complacency set in.

I took a golden opportunity for productivity and squandered it. There were so many things I wanted to do but just didn’t. Looking back, I blame my flippant attitude on what I wore during that period.

You could almost chart my sartorial decline. As the coronavirus pandemic…

If you were 25 again, what would you do differently?

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“About 80% of life’s most significant events take place by age 35” — Meg Jay

Being in my mid-20s, I am fascinated to ask people older than me what they most regret about their 20s.

I usually get the typical response. They wish they traveled more, saved more, read more, or generally just taken more risks with life when they were younger.

They describe how fast that decade of their life went and how they wish they took more control of their life, didn’t live by anyone else’s expectation and took more time to think about their long-term future.


Do these 4 things to make this year the best ever

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You’ve clicked on this article because you want to be successful.

I get it.

You are staring at that mountain thinking: how the hell I am going to climb this? That mountain can be a creative pursuit, side-hustle, or maybe a new career. I don’t know you or what your definition of success is but I can tell you the obvious:

You can be successful at it. Like enormously successful, even if you think you are a failure up until this point.

Does where you start from matter? Of course. But only to an extent.

If you’re reading this on…

Michael Lim

Social Policy Consultant | Avid Reader | Aspiring Writer

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