This time of the year is when people will start making their New Years Resolution and goals for 2019. I wanted to share how I achieved one of my goals last year and hopefully it will help you to achieve yours as well.

Although this article is mainly about reading books on a more consistent basis, you can apply this framework to almost any goal you want to achieve such as exercising regularly or having a more balanced diet.

But Firstly, The Problem with Goals

However, I wanted to begin this reflection with interrogating the problem of setting goals. …

#2 It is easier to be disciplined than it is to be lazy.

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1. It is easier to move towards something than to run away from something.

Act based on love, not fear.

Too often you make decisions because you are scared of an outcome. This is normal, you have evolved to avoid pain. You would rather avoid losing $100 than making $100.

You leave a job because you hate it. You move to another place because you are scared of being stuck or you pre-emptively leave relationships because you fear being rejected first.

Acting on fear means you are trying to avoid pain rather than trying to fulfill any desires that you really want to achieve. The difference is important. You are acting from a place…

It’s the difference between starting a life in your 30s or having a life in your 30s

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In your 20s, you are barraged with an endless number of choices and decisions:

Where should I study?

What should I study?

What career should I have?

Who should I marry?

Where should I live?

That’s a lot of shoulds, and potentially a lot of disappointment.

These are essentially life’s biggest questions you have to attempt to answer before the age of 30. What you decide can shape your life for the next decade or more, often with significant financial and social costs if you get it wrong.

What you do in your 20s and who you do it with…

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Life is a series of games. Some are short. Some are long. Some you should aim to win, some you should aim to not play at all.

We all play games.

And to make a long story short, the key to succeeding in life is:

  1. Knowing which games you’re playing.
  2. Knowing which games you’ve won.
  3. Knowing which games you need to quit.

Each game you play is governed by its own mechanics and logic. The rewards are enticing and the promise of winning can corrupt the purpose of the games you play.

They are unspoken rules that you can only understand once you are playing the game. There is no manual or rulebook.

You Start Life By Playing These Games:

The family game.

You grow up competing to win the attention of your parents…

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Most of the jobs in the future will be created to entertain or teach our fellow human beings.

“In time, almost all humans may work to amuse other humans, while robots run competitive primary industries, like food production and manufacturing.” — Hans Moravec

Think about your future children

Chances are they will have jobs you can’t even imagine right now.

Professions such as ‘virtual reality influencers’ or ‘artificial intelligence strategists’ could be as common and lucrative as being an accountant or lawyer is today.

Really? Virtual reality influencer? That sounds ridiculous. But so does ‘Tik-Tok influencer’ or ‘full-time content creator’. And yet, we now have 16-year-olds such Charli d’Amelio with 100 million followers on Tik Tok and almost 10 million subscribers on YouTube.

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There’s no getting around the fact that discipline equals freedom.

I had a colleague who once asked me: “How are you always so happy and satisfied with life?”

The question took me back a little bit.

I had never really considered myself to be overly happy or satisfied. I am an optimist by nature but I don’t tend to throw that in anyone’s face.

I replied back with a bit of a shocked smile: “What do you mean? Aren’t you happy and satisfied with life?”

“I am kind of. But you always seem so content and relaxed. What is your secret?” she asked

I couldn’t really think of anything mind-blowing…

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Invest a lot of your money where you invest a lot of your time.

My non-financial investment strategy is simple:

Invest a lot of your money where you invest a lot of your time.

Here is this strategy in practice.

1. A custom made bed and pillow

Your pillow and bed are the only possessions that you are guaranteed to use for at least 6–8 hours per day, every day for the rest of your life.

A Huffington Post roughly predicts that the average human will spend 26 years sleeping. 26 YEARS. Would you rather spend those almost 3 decades comfortably or with a sore lower back?

Yet, people are more likely to buy an expensive car that rapidly loses its…

We expect things to happen overnight, not overtime

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Think about all the big things you want to achieve in life.

A successful business, podcast or relationship. Maybe it is having a million dollars in the bank account, maybe it is a million subscribers on YouTube or a large following on Medium.

Whatever it is I will let you in on a little secret:

You can have anything you want….

But you have to do it consistently for at least 3 years.

Have I lost you yet?

Macro Goals, Micro Patience

You live in an age of instant gratification.

One-click shopping, on-demand streaming and a sexual partner with a swipe to the right…

How will you determine whether you have lived a good life?

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I don’t think many people contemplate the morality of their life. As the old saying goes, there are only two certainties in life:

  1. Death
  2. Taxes

You worry a lot about minimizing (legally of course) the second guarantee, but you rarely give much thought to optimizing the first one. You no longer ask yourself: if I was going to die today, would I be happy with the life I have led?

That’s quite an uncomfortable question to ask yourself but the answer would be revealing. You don’t meditate about death nearly as much as you need to. …

How to maximize the most important decade of your life

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Your 20s are the most important decade of your life. According to Meg Jay, you will make 80% of life decisions — marriage, having children and buying a house — by the time you are 35.

This makes what you do in your 20s extremely important.

I am by no means an expert or lifestyle guru. These are my own experiences on how to live better in your 20s. I didn’t include any advice on investing when young or anything else you could find in any standard article about your 20s.

I wanted to go into detail on some unconventional…

Michael Lim

Social Policy Consultant | Avid Reader | Aspiring Writer

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