Act based on love, not fear.
Too often you make decisions because you are scared of an outcome. This is normal, you have evolved to avoid pain. You would rather avoid losing $100 than making $100.
You leave a job because you hate it. You move to another place because you are scared of being stuck or you pre-emptively leave relationships because you fear being rejected first.
Acting on fear means you are trying to avoid pain rather than trying to fulfill any desires that you really want to achieve. The difference is important. You are acting from a place…
This time of the year is when people will start making their New Years Resolution and goals for 2019. I wanted to share how I achieved one of my goals last year and hopefully it will help you to achieve yours as well.
Although this article is mainly about reading books on a more consistent basis, you can apply this framework to almost any goal you want to achieve such as exercising regularly or having a more balanced diet.
However, I wanted to begin this reflection with interrogating the problem of setting goals. …
Taking risks in your 20s is what moves your life forward.
Should I start a business?
Should I quit the job I hate to pursue my passion?
Should I take some time out to travel the world?
These are huge risks to take with real consequences.
But not all risks are created equal. And unlike financial risks, taking risks in your 20s doesn’t come with any warnings on the label.
If decisions in your 20s did come with a risk label, it might read as something like this:
WARNING: Risks you take now will have severe consequences for the decades…
Freedom to drink alcohol legally, drive a car and go out with my friends without permission. When I was 17, I craved it so badly I would have given anything to have the freedoms of a ‘real’ adult.
I centered my young life around maximizing this definition of freedom. I would always book out my weekends, find ways to get alcohol and sometimes joy ride in my parent’s car. I know. I was really stupid.
But that stupidity taught me a lot about myself. Once I got to do those things, I quickly realized how silly they were. …
The ‘Great Transition’ to full-time work is jarring.
It can feel like you are stepping out from a cool room with a controlled environment into a harsh Australian summer with no sunscreen.
You feel naked and unprepared. And possibly sunburnt.
For the first time in your life, you have no real structure or clear goals. You have no roadmap to help you or a curriculum telling you what your workload will be like.
The once safe environment provided by the classroom is gone. …
Creativity is a superpower.
With the rapid rate of automation, one of the only skills that jobs will require that robots can’t do (yet) is creativity. The ability to think outside of the box and bring fresh ideas to novel challenges will be highly valued.
The jobs that your grandparents and parents had will not look like the jobs you will have. They lived in an economy that focused on standardization and efficiency. Mass-produce the same widget, but for cheaper.
Your ability to follow orders and color within the lines was how you got promoted. Anything that deviated from this…
In your 20s, you are barraged with an endless number of choices and decisions:
Where should I study?
What should I study?
What career should I have?
Who should I marry?
Where should I live?
That’s a lot of shoulds, and potentially a lot of disappointment.
These are essentially life’s biggest questions you have to attempt to answer before the age of 30. What you decide can shape your life for the next decade or more, often with significant financial and social costs if you get it wrong.
What you do in your 20s and who you do it with…
We all play games.
And to make a long story short, the key to succeeding in life is:
Each game you play is governed by its own mechanics and logic. The rewards are enticing and the promise of winning can corrupt the purpose of the games you play.
They are unspoken rules that you can only understand once you are playing the game. There is no manual or rulebook.
The family game.
You grow up competing to win the attention of your parents…
“In time, almost all humans may work to amuse other humans, while robots run competitive primary industries, like food production and manufacturing.” — Hans Moravec
Chances are they will have jobs you can’t even imagine right now.
Professions such as ‘virtual reality influencers’ or ‘artificial intelligence strategists’ could be as common and lucrative as being an accountant or lawyer is today.
Really? Virtual reality influencer? That sounds ridiculous. But so does ‘Tik-Tok influencer’ or ‘full-time content creator’. And yet, we now have 16-year-olds such Charli d’Amelio with 100 million followers on Tik Tok and almost 10 million subscribers on YouTube.
I had a colleague who once asked me: “How are you always so happy and satisfied with life?”
The question took me back a little bit.
I had never really considered myself to be overly happy or satisfied. I am an optimist by nature but I don’t tend to throw that in anyone’s face.
I replied back with a bit of a shocked smile: “What do you mean? Aren’t you happy and satisfied with life?”
“I am kind of. But you always seem so content and relaxed. What is your secret?” she asked
I couldn’t really think of anything mind-blowing…
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