Act based on love, not fear.
Too often you make decisions because you are scared of an outcome. This is normal, you have evolved to avoid pain. You would rather avoid losing $100 than making $100.
You leave a job because you hate it. You move to another place because you are scared of being stuck or you pre-emptively leave relationships because you fear being rejected first.
Acting on fear means you are trying to avoid pain rather than trying to fulfill any desires that you really want to achieve. The difference is important. You are acting from a place…
This time of the year is when people will start making their New Years Resolution and goals for 2019. I wanted to share how I achieved one of my goals last year and hopefully it will help you to achieve yours as well.
Although this article is mainly about reading books on a more consistent basis, you can apply this framework to almost any goal you want to achieve such as exercising regularly or having a more balanced diet.
However, I wanted to begin this reflection with interrogating the problem of setting goals. …
“By casting away their responsibility they may feel comfortable with themselves, but they have ceased to solve the problems of living, have ceased to grow spiritually, and have become dead weight for society” — Scott Peck
I know people where nothing is ever their fault. No matter how small it is. They can never admit they were in the wrong. Things always happen to them or the world is out to get them. They are constantly playing the victim role.
It is nice and safe being the victim. You never have to take responsibility. There is always someone else to…
I’ve recently started Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (BJJ).
And I suck.
I am constantly being choked, submitted or thrown around. My body is constantly sore and I’ve never moved my body this way or experienced cardio quite like a session of BJJ.
But my BJJ capability is not really the point of this article. Martial arts, like any other sport, can provide useful analogies for how you can live a meaningful life.
Like many other sports, BJJ provides a controlled environment with clear rules and structured pathways.
While life can be uncertain, sports can be the backbone of consistency. The unchanging element…
The 4 most important money lessons I learned from a personal finance classic:
Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robin
What is money?
We use it every day. We give up our time for it. We fight over it.
But what is money exactly?
You could refer to it as the medium exchange of value between two parties. Or the paper, heavy coins, or, more likely, the piece of plastic we carry and swipe to buy stuff.
So again, I ask: what is money?
Despite using it every day, people don’t have a great understanding of what money actually…
I am going to take a huge leap and say that: most people live their lives unconsciously.
They aren’t really living as much as their existence is a prolonged wait to be buried.
They are dictated by other people’s expectations, cultural norms or the programming they grew up with. They don’t take any time to think about their lives, let alone try to improve themselves.
You know the type. The people who live only for the weekend. …
The world of work is changing. Quickly.
While change has always been a feature of modern life, the rapidity of change is new. The social contract of linear progression from education to work then retirement is now a fleeting dream for anyone under 40.
As a knowledge worker, I am constantly going through cycles of learning, relearning and unlearning. New knowledge is constantly replacing old knowledge. New skills are making old skills obsolete within a couple of years.
The fastest way to become irrelevant is to think learning only happens in school. The pace of the world is changing so…
There is no getting around it. Cold showers suck. There will be plenty of days where I don’t want to do it. Especially in the chilling Melbourne mornings deep into winter.
But that’s the psychological power of cold showers. Doing something that sucks reinforces your identity that you are someone who does hard things. You don’t back away. No matter uncomfortable or spine-tingling they are.
So get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Loving the suck will help to translate into other aspects of your life. …
The path to becoming a millionaire starts in your mind first. Building wealth is a long-term commitment. Without consistency, the path to wealth will always remain hidden. No one becomes wealthy by chance.
This is why 70% of people who win the lottery go broke within one or two years of getting the money.
This tells me:
The problem most people have with money is not financial but psychological. They simply don’t have the…
How much do you value your freedom?
Metaphorical gun to your head, if you had to put a dollar figure on it, what would that number be? Got a number? Good. Keep it in your mind as you read this article.
As I age, freedom is becoming a value I am unwilling to compromise on. No matter what the potential upside, if it significantly restricts my freedom, I don’t do it.
What exactly do I define as freedom?
The ability to do what you want, whenever you want, with who you want. To not be dictated by a…
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